How do I become mentally strong?

Increase the amount of time you spend in the cold by only 10–30 seconds a week and, after a few months, you’ll be able to take 10 minute cold showers with ease.

Leave a bowl of candy on the table. Leave an open pack of cigarettes in your office. Go to an, *ahem* “gentlemanly” website and leave it open in a minimized browser.

Try pushing yourself to see how long you can go and, eventually, you’ll wonder why you used climate control in the first place (maybe not… But you’ll still be mentally tougher).

Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support. I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized. he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that. he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened. he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence. i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction. after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly. things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it. we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe … our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far? this has upset me so much its hard to even function.

One rep, one set, and one step at a time.

toughness, then add some temptation and make it harder to say “No”.

It’s funny…

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Start with only 12–24 hours.

Start now, start small, and work your way up.

I’d challenge you to stretch your mental

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as a Navy SEAL.

2. One More Rep

DON’T do this on the bench press or squat rack if you don’t have a spotter (there’s nothing mentally tough about breaking your back or killing yourself ok?)

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toughness.

3. Turn Off the AC

It just won’t happen. You have to work up to it and slowly build your mental

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Add 1–2 minutes each week and, overtime, not only will you be mentally tougher, but you’ll be more present, less stressed, and more productive in your everyday life.

If you are seriously wanting to give up a vice (like smoking or drinking), you’ll want to throw away anything that reminds you of it.

Mental

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Challenge yourself to do something seemingly impossible for a short amount of time and you will walk away with more mental toughness than you’ve ever had before.

And you’ll be amazed by the hidden strength your body has.

6. Wake Up Earlier (Without Sleeping Less)

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Our lives are way too easy.

So how do you cultivate mental

Whether it’s total sobriety combined with waking up at 5 a.m., daily exercise, and no television for a week.Or simply one week of giving up your strongest addiction.

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Start small in 10–15 minute increments and eventually, you’ll be waking up at 4:30 a.m. like a Navy SEAL.

In the Navy SEAL training program, there’s an event known as hell week.

Another great way to boost your mental

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strength isn’t rocket science.

If you want to get mentally tougher, start by meditating for only 3 minutes a day.

Seriously.

Why do guys on dating apps often just first message "hey" or "hey how are you" instead of being more creative and unique? How do they think being a copycat will stand out?

1. Cold Showers

But rather, turn off Netflix 15 minutes before you normally do, go to bed earlier, and then wake up earlier.

Cold showers are bar none one of the FASTEST ways to build mental

Why are people so terrified or bothered that a person has original creative ideas, hobbies or unique interests?

But if you’re doing this SOLELY to test your mental

Start this off by doing it for one day.

Challenge yourself and you’ll be amazed by the results.

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Have a short event where you complete a certain set of mentally challenging activities every day.

Before We Begin: The Principle of Progressive Overload

Not only will you be saving the environment and helping retrain your body to internally regulate your temperature, but you’ll become stronger by saying “no” to ease, and “yes” to adversity.

Whether it’s cigarettes, candy, pot, alcohol, or porn, pick a vice that you use everyday, and commit to giving it up for a short period of time.

Anytime you’re training in the gym, challenge yourself, once per workout, to do just “One more rep”.

Cold showers suck. I’ve taken them (almost) everyday for nearly 6 years and they don’t suck any less today than they did when I started.

One of the HARDEST thing you can do to build your mental

Start out small with only 10–30 seconds after your normal shower.

Do 21 pushups instead of 20.

toughness is to wake up earlier.

It’s funny to me how often people ignore this principle in their lives.

7. Go Through Hell Week

Within a few months, you’ll be astounded by your levels of mental

The majority of recruits quit. Those who don’t leave the evolution knowing that they can do ANYTHING they set their minds to.

The same way you get physically stronger…

If you try to do too much too soon, you will burn out and quit EVERY single time.

So apply these strategies slowly. Take small steps and challenge yourself to get 1% tougher every day. After a year has gone by, you’ll be 365% tougher than you were the previous year.

toughness by turning the AC off.

toughness is to meditate.

strength?

Don’t give up quality sleep to do this.

Sitting down for 5–30 minutes and doing NOTHING is way harder than it sounds.

In the same way that you can’t go to the gym, deadlift 225 lbs. for 5 reps one week and then expect to lift 405 lbs. for 5 reps the next week, you can’t expect to just wake up one day and be as mentally strong

Plain and simple.

It’s simply learning to be comfortable doing things you don’t want to do.

But anytime you’re doing an exercise where you can safely push yourself, go for just ONE more rep than you’re comfortable doing.

This exercise will teach you to keep going even when things are hard and, if applied regularly, will help you become mentally tougher than any other person you know.

There’s nothing quite like intentionally subjecting yourself to frigid waters and saying “No” to the wonderful warmth of a hot shower when it’s only one twist of the handle away requires insane amounts of discipline and grit.

Do just ONE more rep when you don’t think you can.

Then slowly work your way up until you can easily go 30–60 days without giving into the temptation.

Here are a few ideas to get you started .

Sit in the car on a hot day without cranking up the AC.

I’m just better at handling the suck.

Put up with a cold winter afternoon with no heat.

Try it… You’ll see.

strength over time.

While I don’t recommend giving up sleep for a week and doing thousands of pushups (unless you have a thing for broken bones and screwed up joints), I challenge you to create your own Hell Week.

It’s 7 days of almost no sleep, constant physical exercise, and psychological warfare.

Do 11 pullups instead of 10.

4. Meditate

And it’s exactly how it sounds.

When we get hot, we touch a button and voila! The room cools down to a chilly 68 degrees.

5. Give Up a Vice

strength.